Follow all the same tips as with the first date when it comes to asking for the next get-together -- only up the ante a little. On the first encounter you might want to be a little short and sweet. Later you can be a little more detailed and friendly, with longer messages on the answering machine ("I have a great joke to tell you," or &qu...

Where you go on subsequent dates, and what you do, should all be a natural evolution of the basic principle of dating: getting a sense of each other and how you both approach life. After all, if this relationship really develops into a long-term one -- or even marriage -- you will be spending a lot of time, doing many things, and taking care of...

Think of subsequent dates building on the experience of the second date. They should also fulfill certain purposes. As a review: You will want to get a truer and fuller sense of togetherness and see how you work together as a team. You will want to learn even more about how you both deal with different situations. You will want to test...

Small tokens are a great way to show your interest and make the other person feel good. Avoid large items and expensive things in the beginning. Choose something that the other person likes. Jackie gave Jeff a package of golf balls that he hand mentioned were his favorite, impressing him with not only the gift, but how she had paid attention to...

In the old days, it was only proper for a gentleman to pick a lady up at her place before a date. Suggesting any other rendezvous would be insulting. She would never dream of getting herself anywhere on her own. In the New Millennium: You can meet anywhere for your date, if it seems comfortable and appropriate. Of course, the traditional...

Whether you're going to be picked up at home, or plan to go back to your place for a nightcap, review your place with an eye for having company. Do it yourself, or if you have a few days to prepare, get a cleaning service to do a really thorough going-over (save your nickels, though -- these services cost about $50 for three hours). If you're...

Who Pays? When you start going on several dates, the issues about who pays can shift from the routine you have set up on your first dates. As you go out more often and spend more money, you might want to share more equally in some of the expenses. And you might want to be more sensitive to who is earning more money. Talk about this without fear,...

So you've been out with this person a few times, but you're still not sure if she is really interested in you or if this is "it." You will likely ask yourself, "Is this going anywhere?" or "Am I wasting my time?" Chances are, if you have to ask, be cautious. It means that things are not flowing so smoothly. If you are...