Follow all the same tips as with the first date when it comes to asking for the next get-together -- only up the ante a little. On the first encounter you might want to be a little short and sweet. Later you can be a little more detailed and friendly, with longer messages on the answering machine ("I have a great joke to tell you," or &qu...

Rejecting someone is not a nice task for anyone, but please be kind. Remember karma: Whatever you do to others eventually comes back to you. Acknowledge how you enjoyed meeting the person, appreciate specific things about them (humor or intelligence), and then say something that is honest but non-blaming about why you can't continue the...

Think of subsequent dates building on the experience of the second date. They should also fulfill certain purposes. As a review: You will want to get a truer and fuller sense of togetherness and see how you work together as a team. You will want to learn even more about how you both deal with different situations. You will want to test...

Whether you're going to be picked up at home, or plan to go back to your place for a nightcap, review your place with an eye for having company. Do it yourself, or if you have a few days to prepare, get a cleaning service to do a really thorough going-over (save your nickels, though -- these services cost about $50 for three hours). If you're...

Everyone has his own pace. "You can't hurry love" went the line of a popular song from the '70s. Remember my theory that each person in dating has his or her own comfort level for intimacy and independence. These days, the phrase used is commonly "I need more space." If someone asks for that space, give it to them. Remember ther...

Who Pays? When you start going on several dates, the issues about who pays can shift from the routine you have set up on your first dates. As you go out more often and spend more money, you might want to share more equally in some of the expenses. And you might want to be more sensitive to who is earning more money. Talk about this without fear,...

So you've been out with this person a few times, but you're still not sure if she is really interested in you or if this is "it." You will likely ask yourself, "Is this going anywhere?" or "Am I wasting my time?" Chances are, if you have to ask, be cautious. It means that things are not flowing so smoothly. If you are...

Along the way, there will be signs about whether the two of you are interested, and whether you are suited for one another. These are some good signs: He asks what you would like and then does it. The amount of time you talk together increases. The things you share become more intimate. He says "sweet" things (such as, you are...