Are you guys really that clueless, or is it some sort of ruse?
So, let's say my guy is socially clueless. He loves me, adores me, respects me as a person, etc. What do I do if I find out that he is unsure of where the boundaries lie with flirting? I find that a lot guys are naturally very aloof when it comes to flirting and the kinds of messages they are sending. Even my guy friends will come to me upset, confused about why their girlfriends are accusing them of being disrespectful. They are literally at a loss and cannot understand what they've done wrong. Can you fault a guy like this? Or is he really conscious of his behavior and only playing stupid to avoid getting himself into trouble?
An ex of mine was blatantly disrespectful a lot of the time we were in public with friends. He would flirt with other girls and do little things to drive me crazy, but then profess that he had no idea he was doing it and that I was being unreasonable. It was maddening. He was very good at lying to me when he needed to. It took me a while to realize that I was becoming a doormat by accepting his behavior. It's one of the reasons I hate liars so much. The habitual and pathological liars are the scariest.
Even still, I find most of the guys in my life are ever socially clueless. Social mediums like Facebook and Myspace perpetuate this as people don't feel like a comment made online has the same weight as one spoken aloud. What do you guys think? Think of it in terms of your own girlfriend, or a hypothetical girlfriend... What kinds of behavior don't bother you, and what causes uneasiness? How much control does one person have over the flirtatious attempts of another (i.e. watching another guy attempt to flirt with your girl)?