He's out all night - this time he still hasn't called
I have been dating a man in his early 30's for 4 months now, I am in my late 20's. Things progressed pretty quickly, originally to my protest, and we have talked of moving in together in a few months from now.
During the week, and most of the time when we are together, things are great. Although arguments tend to happen on the weekends when he has been drinking.
He has clled my by is ex's name when he's drunk, which obviously caused an uproar, but more hurtful is when he flakes out on plans to go drinking with his buddies, and sometimes ignores my call.
Last night was one of those nights. It's 6:30pm now, and I have still heard nothing from him. No phone calls, no texts. And I have been tring to get in touch with him since last night.
I feel like he's trying to show me that he doesn't want to be controlled, last night on the phone (drunk) he said he felt like he was on a schedule. We did have plans last night, and he bailed to drink.
But I woner if he is cheating and/or just doesn't really give a shit.
My ex pulled this same crap and I eventually kicked him out. This feeling is all to familiar and I'm scared.
I am ready to get more serious and eventually settle down, he claims the same, but then acts like this.
Am I being blind or overbearing?
Any advice or insight is greatly appreciated.
Thank you