losing my mind

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10-10-17, 01:30 AM
maisielou

losing my mind

ello

ive been dating man for about 13 months now met him on dating site i did date him in 2016 but found out he had a fiance

but he came bck to me 5 months later and we started the affair again

he dont talk about his fiance states it was all lies

fast forward to now i only see him maybe 3 times a month always making excuses to not contact me but when i ask if we over he saying im silly and if course its not

im so torn we have not text in 5 days now said hes ill now

and im silly for loving the guy, hes in 40s fiance in 20s. im 39

he comes does bits for me to my house some diy decorating or gardening or building something than have sex and leaves

he lives with his friend unemployed, and fiance with parents
10-10-17, 04:26 AM
amberXnight

I'm not saying what you should do, you have the right to do what ever you want, but I think you deserve better. Maybe you are just with him for fun, but In my experience you only get what you demand from life. If I were you I would tell him to grow the f up! That man needs some kind of punishment/disaplin. It sounds like he is using you. Just stay strong and don't be afraid to speak your mind,( to him that is)
10-10-17, 02:05 PM
Hooo!

Where is the question?
10-10-17, 02:54 PM
Shoukon

What kind of relationship are you looking for in your life right now?
10-10-17, 06:45 PM
maisielou

i would like a proper relationship but cant move on from him
10-10-17, 10:23 PM
Shoukon

What's keeping you hung up on him?
11-10-17, 01:08 AM
maisielou

i do love the guy and hes done so much for me he bought me furniture a new bed and new sofa only last week decorated my house built stuff in my garden
11-10-17, 01:20 AM
madotnw_nihs

I think you should set your bar a little higher than him getting you furniture. I think everyone has been giving you advice. You just need to pull away from him if you want a proper relationship.
14-10-17, 03:30 AM
Hooo!

You are wrong
There are the following possibilities:
1) you are not looking for a proper relationship
2) you are looking for a proper relationship and could have one with him

If you wanted a proper relationship without him then you COULD let him go

Or you are looking for a proper relationship without him AND not letting him go at the same time
However I would not count that as proper.
Whatever that means for you.