Originally Posted by Bluevetteracer
I can give you a piece of advice, but you will not take it, you will have to learn on your own.
DUMP him, and find a man that will treat you with respect and dignity, and that will help you and you him, to be the best you can be. How will it feel when your kids want to play outside and dad is stoned on the couch. Or the extra money for the trip to Disney was spend on weed. Or, the greatest line ever, "I was stoned, she meant nothing, it will never happen again".
BUT, you will go through life dating guys like this, even marry one, because you refuse to set standards for yourself, and you will not enforce limitations on how you will be treated. So you will go from one bad relationship that you cling to way to long to until you wind up a late thirty-something has been with 3 kids from different dads. And this will be the time, that you realize, I was right.
The choice is yours.