how can a father ignore his bio son
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I had an affair. We had a baby. He went back to his wife, (yes I know I was an idiot, an idiot in love!!:P ) I thought we would end up together cause that's what we agreed. I am trying to be brief but eventually he went back to his wife and kids. From being the one and only, I went to nothing, a nuisance.
A story in itself. The baby wasn't an accident - we so enjoyed making the little one.
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But, he doesn't want to have anything to do with our baby. He has two teenage kids with his wife. I don't need the money. His wife and kids are evangelical Christians,they practice a lot, he is kind of too, probably not as much. Not sure if that matters. I
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The question is: How is it possible for him not to be interested at all in this baby? I just don't understand . We wanted it. I am over him although he broke my heart real bad but I just don't understand that he can be so detached from his own flesh and blood. I have overcome my broken heart btw, never thought I would. Took me over a year. But I have. That's so great.
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Just that it's impossible for me to comprehend this. I tried at first
to explain to him that it might be important for him to know about the baby.
Not to actively get involved but to show some interest. Where/how/what.
Nothing too big. The minimum. Because one day I might have to tell the truth...
I stopped. The baby is now 16 months. We don't really talk anymore.
So boys - how is it possible for some of you to not feel a connection with your own flesh and blood?
Not that I want to cut a lshort story long!!!
It took me a year to recover. It was awful. But I had no choice. He left without turning back. And then just when I thought I would get better, I would relapse. I did a lot of soul searching, therapy (yes it helped me loads) and just wanted to recover. I touched rock bottom in the process.
It was the most painful experience of my life so far. Horrid. I am still amazed I am over it. Incredible.
Of course I eventually realized he wasn't worth it, but I also agree with Vashti: he had to chose and he chose them, the people he had been with for twenty years. His family/ It makes sense. He has a life with them. Not with me.
What doesn't make sense is that it's precisely why I didn't want to get involved to begin with and he swore by all Saints we would make it. And I guess when it had to happen, he realized he had made a mistake and crushed me in the process. Collateral damage. I am the perfect example of becoming a complete fool when it comes to love :goofy:
From being the center of his universe, we went to nothing.
The thing is, I don't need to forgive him, they always say you should. You don't, do as you feel like. We have no contact anymore. I don't hate him either. Indifference is what I feel. This is a very recent feeling. A great feeling. And I have told him in the past that if he wants to know about the baby, he knows how to find me.
I have visited another forum, it was my first one and I really didn't expect the virtual world to help as much as it did. I was desperate when I randomly landed there. I think forums are a sort of group therapy. Works for me.
My first impressions here are good. And I love Lamarthe bags :french:.
You sound cool too.