How would you interpret this one?
I am a woman at 32. I had a boyfriend (39) for a year and a half. I’m embarrassed to admit that the ‘only’ reason I stayed with him was for the comfort and friendship we had. I have wanted to end things with him for so long but just didn’t have the guts to pull through since he is the sweetest guy. Recently I finally broke up with him. But the real reason for my post has more to do with something that happened some weeks ago:
A few weeks ago I met a guy that I had the most unforgettable sex with on several occasions - 12 years ago, that is. It was such a fun reunion and we had (if possible) even more spark and chemistry than when we first laid eyes on each other. In other words - here was all the things I had been missing for so damn long. I told him how amazingly attracted to him I felt, and it was all reciprocated. We kissed and I just couldn’t help myself. I also told him that I had a boyfriend but wasn’t compatible with him sexually and had fallen out of love with him. We talked for two hours and he insisted on having my phone number and even invited me to come join a weekend out town with him and his good friend and his girlfriend.
Anyway, we exchanged phone numbers. I went home and couldn’t sleep for some nights ‘cause he was on my mind 24-7. I decided to sms him to tell him how fun it had been and asked him if he’d wanted to get together the week after (not the mentioned weekend trip though). He answered positively and told me to call him the next week. And so I did. We made an appointment to meet some days later on. But my feet went so cold due to the fact that I had a boyfriend. So the day before the appointment I cancelled via sms and let him know just that. I also apologised, and asked him if it was ok with him if I contacted him when things were more clarified and settled for me.
My problem is that he never answered this last sms!
How do you interpret the silence on his behalf? I’m single now and want so much to meet him again. But fact is I don’t know him very well and it’s been so long. I’m afraid to step out in unknown. He also doesn’t know of my recent break-up. But not answering my disappointing but honest message makes me seriously doubt his previously so enthusiastic effort to meet me again. Now I know that he’s single, but I am also pretty convinced that he’s ‘only’ after some fun and sex. Don’t think he’ ever changed. He was never into long-term relationships. But I feel like meeting him to feel the chemistry again. In other words: I’m not seeking comfort and some shoulders to cry on since the recent break isn’t an issue in my life - what so ever.
How do think I should go about these things?
