Emotional intimacy before sex
Excuse this post, it's bound to be incoherent.
I always kind of worried that I would get involved with someone and then they would find out that I was religious and traditional when it comes to sex, and then there would be an awkward fizzle-out because come on, what guy is going to be ok with that? None.
Then this summer I got to know this guy pretty well over 3 months; we became "buddies", we would talk late into the night after everyone else was asleep - there was all kinds of sexual tension that other people even commented on, but it wasn't until the end that anything could happen. So when something finally did, I was completely comfortable around him, and we would talk completely openly about everything. He wanted to have sex, but he knew me and how I felt about it (and that we couldn't be together for long) so we didn't. He never even tried.
This has made me more confident, or at least less worried that it'll come to this awkward moment where he wants to have sex right now and I'm not ready, because I don't even think I would want to get to that point with someone I wasn't already emotionally intimate with.
But I get the feeling that may not be a safe assumption. I mean, what kind of emotional intimacy have you really achieved if you're having sex on the 3rd date? I'm not condemning this, just wondering if waiting till you know each other and are comfortable with each other is still a lot to ask.