Men, lets see if you can help me understand more, re: porn
I am making attempts to understand. While I am not a prude, porn goes against my grain. Always has. This is just a part of my fundamental character. They say old dogs can learn new tricks but I am not so sure. Yet, I am here seeking help. Figure that one out. lol
When my husband and I married we were on the same page where engaging in porn was concerned. My husband, while not a prude himself, was not interested in any of that. When our daughter was born that solidified his beliefs any more.
Or so I thought.
A few years ago it was discovered that he was engaging in porn, by one of his step-daughters.
We discussed it and I was told that he did understand my stand on this, that he screwed up and that he does not need porn and respected our marriage enough and would not do so any longer. Please don't assume I 'told' him the porn or me. It was not like that.
Well, apparently he lied.
As of late it has come to light that he has indeed remained engaged in various porn.
Honestly, I am just about at the point of the 'me or it'.
So, here I am. Any input would be greatly appreciated.