I feel he is been giving excuses to postpone sex, can you advise?
Me and John met over a month ago and started going on dates, until we decided to be in a relationship as girlfriend and boyfriend.
The first time I went to his home on a Sunday and we started to make out and he wanted to stop because it was a working day next day and he suggested we wait until next weekend when he have more time on our hands. I didn't want to stop something that was happening naturally and spontaneously to wait till Saturday, but respected his decision.
Well, next weekend we did go to bed and had foreplay, but then he couldn't get hard because he said he was tired. We slept together and next morning we did have foreplay but again he couldn't get hard and he said it was because he was too anxious and nervous around me because he wanted everything to be perfect. So we spent that day together doing other things and didn't try again.
Then next day in the evening he visited me at mine and I felt he was avoiding kissing me or touching me much. I told him he could stay for the night if he wanted and he said no because he would have to go to work next day and he didn't bring his work clothes with him.
My gut feeling is that he's been basically giving lots of excuses to not have sex with me. He says he really wants it, but then avoids it. He said there's nothing wrong and he is just nervous, but that it will eventually happen.
I also feel that I have been a bit passive and waiting for him to decide when to meet and sleep, etc. I am wanting to take the lead now and tell him something like: hey, bring your work clothes and stay for the night today with me. And then see how he reacts. Because I don't want to drag this situation for days and weeks on end.
What do you think, should I do that, be more assertive and empowered and taking the initiative to see what happens?