Husband's Friend Hitting On Me
Hi everyone,
I need some advice in a very uncomfortable situation. My husband has a close friend who regularly gets hammered and makes inappropriate comments to me. A few months ago, he told me that he had always been attracted to me and wanted to make something happen. I told him that was inappropriate, and he fortunately backed off. The next day I told my husband about the situation, and he blew it off - he told me I was overreacting and started getting angry at me for apparently trying to hurt his relationship with his friend (yep, I'm rolling my eyes just typing that). I knew that my husband was probably a little taken aback by what I told him, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and decided to move past it...
Unfortunately, the same thing happened again a couple weeks later. This time when I brought it up to my husband, he actually acted angry and said something to his friend...the friend vehemently apologized and said he was really drunk and it wouldn't happen again. My husband seemed satisfied by that response and moved on again.
Tonight, his friend cornered me in the kitchen while we were both grabbing drinks and asked to make out with me. I told him no and he (fortunately, again) backed off. I haven't said anything to my husband about it yet and don't know if I should.
My concern is that my husband seems to think that his friend's advances are either in my imagination or my somehow my fault. If I tell him that this happened again, he'll most likely accuse me of overreacting or misinterpreting. If I don't tell him, I run the risk of him walking in on his friend's advances and think I'm a willing participant. This is compounded by the fact that he doesn't have many friends in the area (he moved here for my job) and really relies on this friendship (but is this guy really a "friend" if he's hitting on his wife??). I just know it will hurt him and he'll unfortunately turn that pain into anger and the anger will be directed at me.
Part of me wants to protect my husband (and myself); part of me wants my husband to know that he can't really trust this friend. I honestly don't know what to do. Any thoughts are appreciated...
Thanks all,
H