I feel kinda weird today

I got a text message from an old school friend saying she had her baby. This news gave me a sense of weirdness partially ‘am I missing out?’ and partially ‘I need to grow up.’ I spent my 20’s avoiding relationships, men and sex. Now in my 30’s I have a new lease of life, I enjoy sex and having a bf all of a sudden. A lot of my friends are cynical about men and relationships and the ones that aren’t cynical are happily married with kids. I am the only one left who doesn’t have a child btw. I just never thought I ever wanted to be with a man. I had a very controlling father who basically watched every move I made during my 20’s and had ways of giving and then taking to get what he wanted and then when I turned 30 he gave me my inheritance (something to do with tax I dunno) and I bought a house with a very small mortgage. I found my freedom. I moved out of home and was able to ignore dad and have fun till 5 am if I wanted. Now I feel like why is everyone getting their shit together? Why am I supposed to get my shit together? It’s quite daunting honestly. I have my new business running well now, I just broke even with potential but why now am I feeling this way, I kinda feel like I’m under some kind of social pressure but also internal pressure all of a sudden. I feel weird. I almost feel like crying and I really don’t know why and where that is coming from.

Your body wants to spawn. It's reaffirming the biological nature you've sought to subvert for so many years. You're more aware of time and the ticking clock. It's making you question your life

You don't have to move at everyone else's pace ... So you missed out on a lot of stuff in your twenties ... Well, thirties are supposed to be the new twenties anyway! Don't let the pressure get to you and just live life at your own pace ... It's not like you're single, getting messed up all the time anyhow ...

Live your life the way you want to live it. If you allow yourself to be pressured into things, you will end up regretting your decisions later.

no one wants to have kids or family with an old woman.

You don't need kids, they're dumb and a pure financial drain.

You don't want to settle down just for the sake of it like lots of other people. Ofcourse, look for that special someone, but there is no need to settle if you don't find him. That road will only lead to a broken home and you still won't get the settling.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You don't want to settle down just for the sake of it like lots of other people. Ofcourse, look for that special someone, but there is no need to settle if you don't find him. That road will only lead to a broken home and you still won't get the settling.

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but it's very essential for a girl to get settled early Mish. one of the reasons is being able to have a child. the other is that, beauty fades and no one looks at a worn out woman.

Gee eco if you want kids just let me know I'll help you make some

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Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

but it's very essential for a girl to get settled early Mish. one of the reasons is being able to have a child. the other is that, beauty fades and no one looks at a worn out woman.

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Settling early will depend on whether there is a right match, if there isn't one then there isn't much point settling with whatever as it won't work out in the long run (as you probably have already found out). It's all about finding the right person.

Those people are rare.

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Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

no one wants to have kids or family with an old woman.

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If she's a freak in the sack, cooks like Benihana, and looks good in a mud bath... I'd consider it.

Maybe you are just PMSing. I always get the blues right before my time of month.