Why did he disappear?! Please respond. TIME SENSITIVE
Hello. I am new to this forum but I have a question that is making me crazy!
A guy I knew from HS recently contacted me and asked me out. I accepted and we had been texting back and forth until our date. I even met him for 5 mins the other day for a cup of coffee. Now all of a sudden...crickets! He sent me a text yesterday which I responded to and that was it! I haven't heard from him. Our date is supposed to be tonight. I hesitate to text him again because 1) I don't want to seem desperate or like I'm begging 2) if he's trying to send the message that he has changed his mind I don't want to seem stupid like I don't get it and 3) I was kinda digging this guy and I guess part of me doesn't want the rejection. I figure if I let it go maybe its not what I think it is.
What's so confusing to me is that this guy PURSUED ME! I never even really noticed him until he contacted me. I thought maybe when we met for coffee he didn't like what he saw BUT he knew what I looked like cause he saw me in person a week prior which was the reason he said he wanted to look me up?! So why has he all of a sudden disappeared?! And should I ask him about our date? Or assume its not happening? And lastly as a more general question...we are not children. Him and I are both 36 years old! If he changed his mind why not just say so? Don't men know that the "disappearing act" is not only frustrating but it's made me feel like I have done something wrong when in reality I was just responding to his advances. I was starting to like him and really wanted to go on this date and now I feel like I'm 16 and just want to cry and key his car!!! Please help! I need some kind of perspective!