Does he even care at all?!
So my bf/ex? (it's complicated) and I have an unconventional relationship. He's 21 and I'm 25. We've been together 2 years and have been living together a year and a half.
He hasn't always been the best bf. It's often kind of bipolar on his end. One minute disrespectful, insensitive, criticizing, and very testing of my trust. The next minute caring, putting in the effort, talking about our future, the works. I knew our relationship was rocky for a long time, but we needed to continue living together for financial reasons. (A part of me also thought if I gave him enough time he would mature and things would change, they of course didn't)
He finally told me last month he was moving to another city and didn't want me to come with him. He didn't want to be in a relationship, felt tied down/married, and wants to live the "college life" and figure himself out. He says he cares about me, has feelings for me, and loves me. But he's also known for saying things I want to hear, so I'm basing things off his actions. We're in the transition period, still living together waiting for our lease to end. He doesn't seem to be regretful or even sad about any of this at all. He's actually been happier, like if a weight has been lifted.
I guess I'm just feeling really stupid for caring so much about him for so long and not that it will change anything, but ... I just need to know for my own peace of mind, does he even care at all?