Hi. This is slightly difficult but I hope I can explain it.
I met someone but we live across the other side of the pond. Was planning to meet each other in a couple of weeks time as I am heading over the pond for some business etc...
anyway, we have been almost always in contact since we met online (I know... online never works. believe me...been there many times!). By either cell or email or webcam.
all has been fine but she is in a difficult living situation. She lives with an ex partner who she has a kid with. it is definately over and apperently she had a "talk" this past weekend about the situation. she hasnt slept in the bedroom for 2 years. The list goes on.
she also is a GM of a hotel and works all hours which isnt good. I'm trying and done my best to get her to reduce her hours for the sake of a potential relationship but for her future, kid and health. of course I "know nothing".
I always wait up real late to at least try to get a chance to talk to her etc.... but as of late its never been the case because she gets home late or whatever or is too tired. Again, I sacrafice my time and re-organise things just to make sure there is no "pressure" on her or whatever...and as a man, I do what I can.
she also doesnt know much about love she admitted. she "sees" a future with me and hasnt had anyone care about her like I do (apperently). she has always been "cold hearted" as she doesnt know much about feelings or closeness, its how she is and her upbringing.
needless to say, it doesnt help me as I always write and speak from the heart and invest alot but appears she doesnt seem to invest that much nor does she know how to express her feelings and she always says that she is doing all she can.... but im stuck with having to appreciate and understand even though I dont feel that "loved" or "wanted" or "appreciated". does that make sense?
we had a second argument yesterday with me being upset. obviously im not allowed to feel the way I do in regards to the fact that she doesnt communicate much as she is always busy and says "she does" when she doesnt or its just one liners - she then argues that I dont get how busy she is.
well I am busy too. infact hell of a lot than her but I make the effort (I always do in everything for every single woman ive tried to date or whatever).
so, not sure really what to do here. me being the better person or speaking aloud, I think she should just focus on her and her kid and forget about being in a relationship that she apperently wants because she doesnt get the time as it is. so really, how is she able to be in a relationship if she doesnt get the time or put in the effort?
for the first time, I felt someone really wanted me for me as it NEVER happens where I am etc.... (lets not get into it) however, I miss that fundemantal importance of the meaning of a relationship and so on. (i.e love, connecting, assurance)
thanks
