Relationship, sexlife advice PLEASE HELP
Hi there,
I'm in big predicament and i have been for some time now,. I'm 24 and i've been with my girlfriend for 5 and a half years, everyone believes and we have always thought we are meant to be, we are both genuinely nice normal people and probably not the couple you'd expect to have this problem. We are best friends and deeply in love.
We've never had sex in this time together only foreplay...my girlfriend tenses up during attempted penetration - which causes her pain, after a while we just subconciously gave up trying. Foreplay (which has always been healthy) has now also become mundane and irregular too and during the past year or two i have become incredibly sexually frustrated, to the point where i've contemplated seeing an escort for sex... It bothers me that i'm still a virgin and i am at the point where i think that even if me and my GF can have sex, it won't be enough - i feel as though i need more sexual experiences.
I have told my girlfriend everything (bar the escort thoughts) generally we tell each other everything. We have been close to ending things several times, but were so close and it would literally destroy us both. When we have a few days of not speaking after "ending" it we both feel physically sick and cant handle it, we are that close.
What do you think we should do? Could i see a therapist to help me contain my urges? Or is there another way of doing this?
A solution i have contemplated is seeing escorts to get things out of my system. I know that my guilt would eat me up though so that wouldn't work for me either! I know if i lose her i'll always regret it and never get over it.
I feel trapped either way, can anyone provide some advice :sad2:
Thanks so much!