I dont want to sleep with my girlfriend at all...is there any hope?
My girlfriend insulted my size to my face too many times...now I dont believe im enough for her sexually and as a result I dont want to sleep with her. She compared me to her exes indirectly and even a friend of mine who slept with her cousin...I broke up eith her because of it but even after countless arguements shes still with me. It brings me to the point of tears cause the way she talked about my size made me feel like it wasnt enough for her...
I love her but I cant stand touching her because its messed with my self esteem and confidence so much. She even cried when I laid it out for her without holding back...I doubt she didnt understand what she was doing so I didnt feel bad when I told her straight up sleeping with her was "torture".
All I can imagine is her enjoying other guys more than me...Im convinced shes faking it all the time and she doesnt turn me on in the slightest anymore.
Shes tried to make me feel better about it and I just cant believe anything she says. I even slept with other women who were far more appreciative of me but that didnt make me feel better at all cause all I cared about is what she thinks and if she enjoys me.
I dont know why she did those things but now I have no self esteem or sexual confidence...im a pretty good size too according to studies im in the top 2-3% of mens percentiles so its even more confusing to me.
Far above average but still not enough...I never had an ego about it but now I just have a wound that wont heal.
I know that breaking up with her is the obvious thing to do but I truly love her. I forgave her for everything she said but just cause im not mad about doesnt mean im still not hurt or self conscious. I asked her a million times if she needed toys or something but she always says no and that im more than enough for her.
I just dont believe she enjoys me at all. No matter what she says. Any suggestions? Or are we just doomed...
Strong people dont put others down they lift them up.
Maybe she was smaller in the past and now you strenched her she feels like you are smaller when its actually her who changed. You destroyed that pussy.
This can help get back some confidence
loveforum.net/threads/85672-Guide-How-to-deal-with-breakup
What more can I say.
Put a fist in her. Later when y ou are older you will find woman who you can put palm in actually both hands but they will still enjoy dick. Its because the energy transfered are what makes diference. As long as you enjoy yourself and are putting efford she will sense desire and feel the passion you giving to her.
Man I know its damaging but its because you take what they say serious.
Realise that girls are stupid emotional creatures. I have met enought low confidence girls who put down guys just to feel better about their own insecurities. I been with girl who would call me most ugly man in the world and then cry because I wont talk to her. Where is the logic? There isnt. So no need take to it serious. Theres enought people who gives the worst shit but still expects others to do right things. People who are not in right mind will damage others around them.
There are girls who will make a guy feel like beat up dog and then expect guy to be man but thats exactly the reason guy cant be a man for that woman.
Just say "why are you telling this to me"
"Because..."
But I love you. I love you. Stop !
Here is some tools how to deal with this bullying
How to say NO! and squash bullies forever
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K64Oz83swmA
How To Deal With Negative People
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCINi5pY0EM
How to Make Other Men Respect You
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvBKC_8TTao