Was I a bad boyfriend or was she at fault?
The relationship I was in lasted for a year and I’m just wondering if I’m better off without said person.
My positives were that:
- I was trust worthy & honest
- Did romantic things
- Was spontaneous at times
- Listened when she was upset and tried to do what I could to help things
- Constantly tried to become better for her
- Talked about the problems I was having & my insecurities in regards to the relationship
- Always encouraged her with everything she did
- Never stopped her from doing anything (like going out with her friends and etc)
- Complemented her & tried to make her feel beautiful
- Never tried to change her & accepted her for who she was
- I was thoughtful
- Protective (not over protective)
- Sorry if this sounds like i’m trying to “ talk myself up “ but I’m not ugly & I’m fairly intelligent
- Got along with her family really well
- Was there for her through her hard times
My negatives:
- I was a bit insecure
- I didn't really open up as much as I could have
- A bit jealous though never to the point where i'd get angry at her or anything
- I was clingy at times and didn't give her space
- Became a bit too passive and didn't really stand up for myself/joked around too much at times
- Became a bit too predictable at times
- I didn’t completely trust her
The reason why I was insecure/didn’t completely trust her is because she left a guy for me of which something happened between us before their relationship was over so throughout the relationship I just felt that “ if she could do that to him there is nothing from stopping her from doing it to me “.
I know it was a stupid decision to try and be with someone who had a boyfriend but its just that we had a lot of history together & I never tried to take her away from him, when she talked to me about their relationship I gave her unbiased info on what she should do.
She wasn’t very honest/trust worthy person at times as she’d tell white lies & avoid saying things to “ spare “ my feelings which she knew that i didn’t want her to do that.
The reason why I became clingy/didn’t give her space at times was that at the time I had just finished school and all of my friends had either UNI or work, my best friend was travelling & I was living with my dad. My mother was about to have some other guys child & everything had just became really stressful so I just wanted to talk to her constantly to keep myself preoccupied.
I was always made an effort to be there for her when she needed me but when I needed her she screwed me over as she broke up with me 3 days after my brother had died and had already tried to do something with another guy.
For those who read all of this I’m not trying to excuse my mistakes as I know I stuffed up at times & that I could have been better, thank you to all those who help !