Abnormal Sexual Preference??
I am very confused and about to break it off with my boyfriend. I am having a very hard time accepting one of his sexual preferences and battling internally over whether or not I am overreacting. I am 31 years old and he is 36 years old. We're both very open minded and very sexually active. When we first started dating, he told me he had a thing for girls with braces. He told me it would be really hot if I helped him fulfill one of his sexual desires and wore either braces or a retainer for him. To make a long story short, I figured that checking out older teenagers was the extent of it. I woudl be a fool if I thought that men in their thirties don't notice hot 18 year olds. Anyway, we had been dating about a year when I decided to push a little and find out exactly what the extent of his sexual desires was. We were in a hotel lobby eating the continental breakfast on vacation in November. A large group of junior high girls were eating breakfast as well. We were surrounded by at least four or five girls aged 12 - 14 with braces. It became painfully obvious that he had noticed them as well. He wasn't oggling, in fact, I think he was trying not to look as to protect my feelings. I couldn't help myself. I just had to know if he was looking at girls this young. When I confronted him, he told me "I'm not dead below the waist." I didn't react too well, but dropped it quickly since we were on vacation. Since that day, I can't stop thinking about that comment. It rings in my head like an alarm going off on Monday morning!!! I confronted him today and he reacted very badly saying I was accusing him of being a child molester. He said most guys lust after younger girls, they're just not as honest as he is because of society. I feel like I have a lifetime of pain ahead of me if I decide to just deal with this. I can't imagine having a daughter with this man and having to bring her to the orthodontist. Everything else in our relationship is great. He is a good man in all other areas and I truly believe he would never do anything sexually deviant. He assures me he wouldn't and says it's never even crossed his mind. He says I am making more out of this than it is. He says he doesn't prefer young girls with braces, but definitely notices them. Am I a fool to work through this with an open mind or should I cut my losses and run now? I know this isn't normal, but how abnomral is this? I really need some brutally honest feedback on this.