How long should I maintain the "No contact" rule?
Okay, so here's the story.
I was dating a girl for about a year and a half and I fell madly in love with her. We were doing fine, only ever had one real argument which almost led to a break up, but we managed to get over that. In general, I thought we really loved each other. In the last few months though things started to get a little more and more gloomy as it was clear that she was going to move abroad to study in the end of August.
Back at the end of July I slipped into a bit of a depression/anxiety thing which turned me into a complete miserable wreck who did nothing but sleep all day and not eat anything. I guess I was sort of getting that feeling that I was about to lose something (as it happened about a month later). Anyway, I snapped out of it.
So the last few days we had together were kinda "plagued" with uncertainty. I obviously wanted to continue my relationship with this girl, because I truly cherished her, respected her, loved her and wanted to at least give this long-distance relationship thing a chance. I made my intentions and desires clear because I thought we had a good thing going on, a good, real connection, but she kinda started beating around the bush, not really giving me a proper indication as to "where do we go now".
At the end of August she went abroad and we didn't really realize we hadn't made things clear, we made no real decision about anything, just decided we'd go with the flow.
Two weeks after she left I found out she had kissed some guy at a party. Afterwards she finally spoke up about how she feels "so safe, comfortable and secure with me and that that shouldn't be the core value of a relationship for people our age (19)", also said she was feeling "suffocated" and whatnot. All her words, not mine. I was really hurt, disappointed and surprised in a bad way, because I thought this girl was different (ha, don't we all) and decided it'd be best if I discontinued any form of contact from then on, as much as she insisted on "still being there for each other and emotionally supporting each other" but I was having none of it. Things did not really end on a good note either, as I was bitter. I deleted her from my Facebook and so on, told her I needed at least a bit of time to myself because the pain was too much, got rid of everything she had ever given me (well, almost) and moved to England to start a new life. I was going to anyway.
This happened more than a month and a half ago. Now, I'm wondering... how long should I wait until I contact her? Yeah, I know I should probably let the dumpee contact first so that I can maintain my pride and all that, but I'm pretty sure she won't take up the initiative to contact me first, because she is shy, faint-hearted and is always afraid to make the first step in anything.
So how long should I wait until I, say, add her on skype again? And what kind of approach should I apply if I do re-initiate any form of communication? I kinda assume she's with someone else now although I haven't asked anyone...
The weird thing is, she 'liked' a few pictures of mine that other people uploaded which she has access to since our breakup, and she also keeps pictures of me/us on her Facebook profile, as few as they are, she hasn't deleted them(yet?). Isn't that a bit... strange?
