Do we think this is a cause for concern, or maybe a good thing?
Did a bad thing yesterday, but it may not have turned out so bad…
The ex invited me for dinner – I went, and he had set up quite a seduction scene. The night before he had been with my brother and had expressed his doubts about our break-up. Anyway, we had a nice dinner, tried to watch a movie, but of course couldn’t, and ended up in bed. I have to say, it was really nice. Afterwards, I got the impression that he wanted to talk to me about something – he kept raising the issue and then bottling it. Eventually he said he would like to get some counselling. He expressed his concerns that if he couldn’t make it work with me, he wouldn’t be able to make it work with anyone, and he doesn’t want to end up alone.
I asked if he was totally committed to it being over between us, and he twice said that he absolutely wasn’t. I know he is still having his cake, but I sensed a real uneasiness with him. I really don’t think he wants to f*ck this up. He said, totally unprompted that he thinks I am amazing, and he was pretty insecure about my plans for the short-term that don’t include him. I think he may be coming round, but I am also preparing for the fact that he may not. Its quite positive though, is it not? I shouldn’t have slept with him, but I am as much to blame as him – we can’t seem to keep our hands off each other (which means we probably shouldn’t hook up at the moment) but it was very tender and loving too.