Let go... Hey everyone, I'm new here and thought i'd stop in and seek some advice. I'm 28y/o and my g/f is 26. We have been together for over 8 1/2 years and have no kids. Any who, i am in love with her b/c of everything she has done for me in the past, especially when my parents passed away. I know she'll be there when i can count on her etc... However, these past 2 years have been really rough for both of us b/c we lacked communication. I'm the type to confront the situation and not back down until we resolve the issue. Unfortuantely, she is the type to be reserve and stay quiet and not get involve. She constantly asks me if i love her and that she wants for me to tell her everyday which i do. I'm the crazy one and i enjoy going out every weekend and don't like to stay indoors. She on the other hand wants to settle down and have a baby. My main issue is that i want for her to communicate more effectively and give me attention in the physical aspect. When it comes down to making love, i feel that i always initiate the first move and always have to ask her for it. I would like for her to show me just as i show her, but she doesn't. Her typical weekday is come home from work, cook, read her books, or watch tv. I am getting really bored of the repetitive pattern and need some excitement. I try to give her hints by telling her that i enjoy having sex, teasing her, telling her that we should try different things by buying each other something from a sex shop, sharing secrets, revealing our fantasies, etc.... but i feel that it's not getting to her. I had to go to extremes by telling her that i want her affection and attention. I just don't want to stray and seek it elsewhere and jeopardize what we have. Is she even physically attracted to me? I did ask her and she said YES. I am exhausted from giving her hints and ready to give it all up or just stop giving her attention and ignoring her to the point, where i will be less affectionate and go about my day. I really do want to work things out and put excitment in our lives or throw down the towel and seek it from someone else. I'd appreciate the inputs and advice. Any ideas...
