My wife and I have been married for nearly eight years and for the last few we just dont get along, sometimes its ok and we go for a walk or out for coffe, it just seems like we've lost the love part of the relationship. We're good as friends we just never cuddle or get intimate, and we only have sex if she's drunk which makes me feel like i'm ugly or something, (why else would she need beer goggles) so i guess that affects my confidence a bit but nothing like what she said the other day, and i quote: I think marrying you was the biggest mistake i've ever made, i never wanted to get married and now my life is wasted, i wanted to travel, not be stuck at home with two kids. (we were chatting about our relationship, not fighting) OK!!! I thought i'd done my best to make her happy, quit my job to care for the kids so she could study. I'll admit i'm not perfect but i get points for trying dont I? Anyway, we've been talking about separating, would have done it a very long time ago if it was'nt for the kids. but she does'nt want me to get a girlfriend if we do split because she wont be able to get back together with me if she ever wants too. which i just dont get because if you dont love me now, whats going to change in a few months or years?
I may be a bit different to you're average guy because i need to be loved, especialy in a phisical way, like cuddling, kissing, sex. i cant go on without it, where as she does'nt seem to think its all that important, which makes me want to find someone that will appreciate me and love me.
So, am i wrong to want a girlfriend when we split?
Should we not split for the sake of our kids and just live with it?
Should i not have botherd with this post?
Am i likely to find a girl that will accept and love me after being divorced?
I'm sure there are more questions but i'll leave it there for now.
Hope i havent bored you all to tears.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, any encouragement or help would be greatly appreciated.