Chemistry and nature – what's the story?
Well I’ve been thinking about this since doppels thread. It’s been said that there are 3 types of attraction 1) emotional, 2) sexual and 3) intellectual
Can you get by on one alone = i.e sexual? For guys; is that the difference between us women and you men? Majority of you can get by for years (while you can still get it up) on sexual attraction whereas we women need all 3? Sexual attraction is apparently not a conscious decision but a reflex of nature.
Emotional attraction apparently has to do with self esteem. Women tend to have less self esteem than men and therefore I’m thinking we women need this too. Are we women deeper or more needy? Or rather are men more disconnected and don’t need emotional attraction coz most guys have a good dose of self esteem. This would suggest that we women are at a disadvantage, if so. Does this also mean we women can confuse someone’s attention and care for our self esteem (ie compliments etc) as love? Friends raise each others self esteem but does it get confused when it’s the opposite sex raising it?
Is that why women are usually the first in a relationship to declare their love?
I know I’m doing the usual asking tons of questions, it’s my train of thought atm.
I’m trying to analyse here whether we women are getting screwed by nature in relationships or not. I have a strong feeling that we are. I guess the gift we get from nature is being able to conceive….we got the raw end of the deal. Men and women what do you reckon? If we temporarily castrated men, before the decision of having a baby is wanted and re-castrate after the baby is born do you think it would help? :tough: