What's really going on here?
I starting seeing my brothers good friend (we'll call him Mr. X, he is single) about 5 months ago.
My brother had a lot of negative things to say about us being together so Mr X decided to stop the situation.
After spending a lot of time around Mr. X as friends,
we couldn't stop the attraction we felt for each other regardless of my brothers feelings.
(I basically didn't care what my brother thought, it was more how Mr. X felt.)
I decided to stop our FWB situation because my feelings had grown immensely for him.
We remained friends, and hung out together, phone calls..movies, hiking, dinners ect...
It was clear to me that we were either going to stop being friends
or be in a relationship because of the attraction we felt for each other both emotionally & sexually.
He then told me that he wanted more out of our relationship, that he didn't want it to be about sex, and exactly how he felt about me.
After that, everyone knew we were "together" and my brother stopped talking to him & was extremely hurtful towards me.
Here's the tricky part..
Mr. X has a lot of issues that need to be corrected within the next few months
(the issues are personal and have nothing to do with another person) before we can move forward (take the next step).
He has asked me to give him some time to straighten these issues out
because he doesn't know how they will unfold & doesn't want either of us to get hurt.
I asked him if he was braking up with me & he said "I'm just asking for some time, I hope you understand"
I replied that I understood and I was there for him if he needed me.
He said " Thank you, and I know, that is why you are so special to me."
I didn't hear from him for a week, then received a text message saying "How are you?"
I replied "OK"
then a "That's good"
One hour later I got another text that said " I've been thinking about you a lot"
I replied " Been thinking of you too"
Then he told me he was going to be in the area in two days, and asked when I was off work.
I took this as he wanted to see me, even though he didn't say it.
I told him I wasn't sure what time I was done,
and I was slightly confused that I thought he needed time.
He then said "I thought I could talk to you?"
I said " You Can" :)
It ending with him saying "Well OK then."
So what I'am asking from a mans point of view, do you think..
1. He just doesn't know what he wants.
2. When he asked for time but not to brake-up that he just wants to keep the relationship at the same level until his issues are resolved.
3. He's a bad communicator.
4. Just waiting to see what happens.
I'm really confused.