A different Journey - going for the friend
I have thought about my situation. To recap – my ex dumped me for a much older, divorced guy with two kids.
Then she invited me to lunch with her and her two friends. One of the friends called me to go out “just as friends” but I declined, because I was still hung up about my ex. I told her that I thought it would remind me of my ex and that I just needed time. She said I could call her back anytime to go out. I have decided to call her. Why?
If I end up getting together with the friend, I will be doing exactly what my ex is currently doing. If my ex and I ever get back together, we both won’t feel as bad about what happened (the flings), because we both did the same thing.
I know she is with another guy. But right now she does’nt know anything about me. She thinks I’m still hung up about her (based on what I said to the friend – which inevitably got back to her). She needs to know that I’m over her and dating too.
By contacting her friend to go out, it’s the only way that I can convey the message that I’m over her and moving on. By keeping quiet for a long time – by not calling her friend – it would just mean that it is taking me a lot of time to get over her.
Also its my ex’s friend, so if they talk, it could get my ex jealous. Also I thought her friend was pretty hot. It could lead to something very nice too, and I might not even want my ex back at that point.