Advice on how to get my ex g/f back
Hello All,
My ex broke up with me about 3 months ago now, we were together for 2.5 years. And she jumped straight into another relationship 1 month after the break up, already having sex and all, which really hurts, picturing her having sex with someone else kills me. And she said after we broke up that she wasn’t in any rush to jump into another relationship, she wants to be single for awhile. I love this girl so much, I want her back in my life badly. But don’t know what to do. I was talking to her mum and I asked her if they were serious and her mum said that shes just having a bit of fun, nothing really too serious. So what does this mean She got bored of me? Or maybe want to experiment other people? Our sex life was great :) so I don’t think shes out there to get better sex. I asked her if she had any feelings for me at all and she said “Not Much Really” is that possible to lose love for someone and jump straight into another relationship? We were also engaged for a year, we loved each other very much. Always talking about us getting married having kids etc. 3 weeks before our break up she told me that I’m the only 1 she can see in her future. So I’m really confused. Do you think shes hurting and missing me deep in side? Shes defiantly not showing it. I asked her if I have any chance in the future and she said, “ I can’t tell the future who knows what will happen, But I’m not going to lie to myself and get back with you now” I feel I cant just let her go as I know shes the girl I want to marry! I feel so responsible for the break up aswell, ive been depressed for most of my teenage life, low self-esteem I wasn’t really happy with my self. And I got in a bad rut this last year and got really lazy, hardly ever like to go out or do things. But now ive realised the mistakes I made and fixing all my problems, I’m on Anti-Depressants now, I’m more active. But now ive left it to late I haven’t contacted her at all after finding out she got someone new, she has rang me up twice, the first time she rang we just ended up arguing. A week later she rang me up again to say I had mail there to pick up and to have a chat to see how I was and stuff. I was keeping the chat cool, as I didn’t want to push her away further from me. She was saying it was good to have a chat with me without arguing and fighting. And I saw her in town at the clubs on Saturday night, all I said to her is How Are you and she replied I’m doing good, that’s all what was said the whole night, I just want to keep things cool between us, was that a right move keeping my distance from her the whole night? I haven’t seen or talked to her since then. I’m worried shes going to compere the dude shes with now to me and see me as a mistake and how boring I really was to be with. He’s more of a sociable person, and also has work, ive been out of work for a while due to depression, but I’m looking really hard for work now! She says she would like to be friends but don’t they all say that? So I need advice on what I can do to win her back in my life. Ive already emailed her telling how I feel and to say sorry for the mistakes I made and that I’m fixing all my problems now. But she just saw right past that. I think Shes pretty set in her mind she doesn’t want me back. Do you think this is just phase she is going thro? I’m hoping that she will realise that we were perfect together and want me back, but I think my chances of that a slim. Ive still got a lot of anger and hurt that she could do this to me, but yet I still love her with all my hart and want her back badly! Should I just keep to this “No Contact” and leave it up to her to ring me? I’m scared shes going to forget all about me now shes with someone else, shes always-busy working and spending her spare time with him! So she won’t even stop to think of me. Any help and advice will be very much appreciated I need her back badly I love her so much :( ….thanx