Girlfriend of 3 months in limbo
To summarize my situation;
I met a girl, maybe things were rushed. She is still in grad school in a different city; but will be here in May after graduation (I'm 26, she 22)
It worked really well and that's why initially rushing things didn't really become a problem...and she was here over the holidays....
She made it clear that she really cares about me, and am an amazing BF, etc, but she isn't in a place where can commit to being someones GF...and she knew it would hurt me if she didn't say anything...
She was extremely dependent in a 3 year relationship that ended a year ago, and she claims she is going through a phase in her life where she is growing independent.
Her and my dilemma is what to do. She and I have made it both clear that we don't want to break up (and not talk), but she just can't be a good GF.
How do I handle this? My heart is telling me I can take a step back, and we can continue to casually chat online/text/phone and remain in that stage, but part of me thinks maybe I should just end it and not talk to her.
I want to do what's best for our chances for the future....and I think if I cut ties altogether and in 3 months she decided she's ready, and I'm no longer in the picture in any facet, I'll **** myself.
Thanks guys, I've never been in a real emotional dilemma and unfortunately not close enough with anyone to spill my thoughts.