Is this cheating?

Do you consider it cheating if your husband has chats online of a sexual manner with other women or do you consider it fantasy play?

I would "consider" major issues in his marriage.

Yeah, that's pretty f*cked up.

I'd be pissed about that.

agree with lesa, that is not normal behavior... especially if done behind the partners back.

BUT.. people are strange you know. i can't say for certain, but I bet CEO's and other people from who you would least expect enjoy these kinds of behaviors, it gets them off.

i remember a course i took last year, in behavioral science, we were learning about all the different kinds of fetishes people have. some of them are obvious (panty sniffing), but others you would not believe!! i still have the list, not sure if you would be interested to read it though!!!! :O

Post the list!

You mean like cybering? Yep, I consider it cheating.

If you're doing it behind your partner's back and he or she would be hurt by it, then it's cheating.

i consider fantasizing about others not cheating, but when it involves chatting and getting another individual involved then it is.

You're essentially sitting down with another person and conversing about all the things you would like to do to and with them.

I just don't see how that can be passed as "innocent".

It's cheating unless you don't consider it a problem or threat to your relationship. Pretty much if it's arranged as being OK in the negotiation of what is or is not acceptable in a relationship then it's fair game.

Which for most people means Yes. It is cheating.