Should I stay or should I go?
So my girlfriend and I have been together for a year and 9 months, and for 6 months it's been a long distance thing. When I last saw her I told her I wanted to be closer to her and I wanted to move to her city, either live together or apart but in the same city. Well her reaction was not at all what I expected. She was hesitant and kinda changed the subject. Anyway, I came back home and sent her a flower arrangement just as a "thinking of you" type of moment. She told me she loved them. We had a small spat about how I felt she wasn't giving me my place as her BF and this upset her. I think back and I could have been more calm and talked about it in a different manner. Anyway the next day she tells me she needs space to fire things out and I agreed because I thought I might lose her if I didnt. Well then she says we need a break. Agai , I agreed eventhough I personally don't believe in breaks. But for 2 weeks we kept in touch. She would call or text and I would too however she didn't want to tall about the situation and would speak to me as if I were a friend or acquaintance which I didn like. I gave her chances to break it off but she didn't but she didnt say she wanted it either. So last week I told her it was best if we didnt speak for a week and then I would go see her so we could talk in person. She said she wanted to see me but it was too soon to do so. So at this point I told her to call me when she had figured things out. We haven't spoken since. I guess I just want to know where we stand and she doesn't want to talk about it over the phone. I feel like flying over to see her face to face and get some closure if indeed we are over. I'm so confused. Do you guys think it is a good idea to go see her and talk? Or will it just push her away even more? I want this to work and want to exhaust all efforts before each person going our separate ways. Any advice would be helpful.
Keep the advice coming please...
Thank you all for your advice!!!!
I have been trying to convince myself that it is indeed over. But letting go of someone you love so much is hard, investing 2 years of your life is hard.
@bloodtippedrose - she didn't move away. I did. I met her at work. The company I worked for sent me to her state and office because they were short handed but I stayed here for a year. Then I was sent to another state for 4 months but we made the relationship work. I would go see her or she would come see me. We saw each other at least a weekend in each of those 4 months. After that gig I went back home and flew out to see her again. Right after that, I was sent back to her state for work for another 4 months. after this, we took a weekend getaway for her birthday. So it is not like we didn't see each other during the long distance phase. When I told her I wanted to be closer to her and be done with the long distance that's when all this started.
She texted me last week saying she was homesick (she's currently working away from her hometown) so I gave her some advice and she said that hearing from me helped her heart. She told me she loved me as did I. I'm getting mixed signals here and that's the reason I want to fly out there. I'm trying to get used to the fact that it is over, just wished she would come out and say it.