Dating two women... how do I choose?
Okay, the title of this post is a little misleading. I know exactly which woman I like better. I don't need help deciding. But here's the situation. I have been very casually dating this one girl for a little over two months. But during these two months, we have only been out 3 times. She is a very busy woman, with her job, dinners with coworkers, work related weekend trips etc etc. So, I barely get to see her. When we are together, we have fun. We have so many similar interests, and world view. We kiss each very good together. Similar sense of humor. It's nice.
BUT... whenever I call her, no matter what, she never actually just answers the phone. I mean, if we arrange via text that I will call her on Monday to "catch up" (that's how she always puts it), then when I call on Monday, she does answer. But like in 2 and a half months, if I just pick up the phone and call her, she is not going to answer. i will have to leave a voice mail. She will return my call; she always has, but it is always a day, or sometimes even two days later. I called her yesterday at 11:30 AM to see it she'd like to get lunch tomorrow. She returned my call at 11:45 PM ???, I didn't see she'd called, so she left a generic, "Just returning your call." voice mail.
So, anyway... I met this other girl. I like her too. She is fun. She is well traveled, and in general a cool girl. In fact, this girl is technically much prettier than the first girl that I like so much. But I don't care at all... I like the first girl more. So here is my problem. If girl #1 is who I really like, but she isn't interested in me enough to at the very least shoot me a text when I call and say, "Hey, I got your message, but I'm really busy with this project. I'll call you tonight/tomorrow." Then I don't want to get all attached to her and keep trying to call her, just leaving voice mail. It almost feels like she is dating several guys right now herself, and I am her Tuesday or Thursday boy.
But at the same time, I don't want to bring all this up to her, because no matter what, we have ONLY been on 3 dates. It's been two months, but it seems a bit early to start in with, "You sure are hard to get ahold of." kind of conversations. That will paint "Weak and Needy" all over my face.
What do you girls think? And please don't waste time trying to imagine what might be her situation. I am more interested in what you think I should do/think. Like, don't respond with, "She's probably dating other guys, and is a workaholic..." because none of us can know any of that, and I find that assumptions this early in the game are almost ALWAYS wrong. I am just asking, how I can make this girl know that I'd like to see her more, without coming across as a whiney boy who needs more attention.
I just don't want to waste my time. I'm a cool guy, and I don't want to spend another two months leaving voice mails.