Why "we" instead of "you"?
Yeah this is kinda carry over from the counseling thread, but it is its own topic. Anyway one of the things that came up during the first meeting was that if I point out something that she does that I should say "well [we] need to work on such and such" instead of saying "you".
Is it like that for all you ladies? I personally view that as an inability to take responsibility for your own deficiencies. If I personally suck at whatever I'm not going to insist that you say "we" when addressing my problem as if you somehow participated in it. Likewise I don't address my wife's anger as "our" problem, but as "her" problem. It seems like common sense to simply own one's own problems, but I want to know if this insistence on problem sharing is something that a lot of women do.