Hi.
I have been seeing a man for a year now. I see him almost every day, and if I don't, I talk to him on the phone so we are very close. We almost live together because we will spend 6 out of 7 nights together. We have been intimate most of this time. He has a very extreme personality and, one of his quirks, is to just ignore everyone for a few days up to a week. I am the only one he would never ignore so I am an important person in his life. However, he could never decide if he loved me enough to marry me or even date me (technically speaking). He says that he does not have the urge to not see other people and be with only me all of the time (only on occassion). This week, he completely broke it off with me and started dating someone else (intimately...) but ended up still spending the night with me afterward and being intimate with me. For a brief break in between our year long relationship, he had a relationship going with this woman for 2-3 weeks, but broke it off and decided to be with me (I'm not sure by default or not because he felt like he couldn't love her either).
My question is, is there a chance of him loving me someday? As in, what is the chance of a man changing his mind (because he says it is very slim)? What I mean to say is, we are attracted to each other, and we are each other's best friends. But for the past month, I have been very depressed and have been very mean and snappy to him, and I know this has a lot to do with this (but he says it would have had to end regardless because of the absence of "the one" type feeling).
To give you what I think is relevant background info, he is 31 (I am 21) and has come close to marrying 2 past loves, but both of which broke his heart. It seems that in his life, almost all of the important women let him down in significant ways (including his mother). I know the last relationship 3 years ago hurt him so badly he still cannot speak of it. Since we get along so well normally, is there a chance that this is just holding him back from allowing himself to love?
Sorry this is so long, but thank you for anyone who attempts to help me. I don't know if I need to give him distance to see how important I am to him or if I should stay since all the significant women seem to abandon him and leave him a little distrustful. I know I shouldn't put my life on hold for him, but I was just curious if there was hope down the line... Like a matter of timing.