Why is she telling me this?
It's been 5 days since she broke up with me. She lives in the apartment (with other roommates) next door, and we have similar friends. I've not initiated any contact, though she has, and I've spoken to her twice since, alone, in my room. The first time was just a chat, I was fine and she wasn't great but we didn't talk at all about us, just chatted like friends.
Now the second time is what's bothering me.
She came round yesterday, unhappy. She wants to know "how im feeling" or something. Again, I acted cool and calm. I told her that I had been feeling sad, hadn't wanted to break up but felt like I couldn't dwell on it. I said I felt awkward being around her now we're not together. She told me that she's been feeling crappy since we broke up. She says she's been in her room alone so much more than usual, that she's been wondering why she's bored, why her phone isn't vibrating. She tells me how she was 'used to' coming round to my place. She's sort of in tears at this point. She's still curious, but can't phrase a question. She mentions about there having been "too much space" between us at the end, both in a physical touchy-feely way and in terms of just spending time together.
I start to tell her how I felt during the last week of our relationship, mainly that I was confused.
[Background: We had been having a bit of a rough period but were still doing okay (sleeping in the same bed 90% of nights) up until a week before, when I got upset about her finding the time to go out drinking but not to spend time with me, apart from us sleeping in the same bed. She helped me realise that I was being a bit silly because I was always expecting her to tell me when she was available, rather than just me contacting her and asking to see her. I felt much better the next day, but from this point on she never slept over again. At the time I just thought she was down about exams and family, and needed space so I didn't bother her about it.]
I asked her about it, and she says she sort of did it to see if I'd try and come over and sleep with her (not sex). I said "what a fecking miscommunication" and we sort of both laughed, me starting to get a bit teary, her more teary.
She now says she wants to still be friends but doesn't know how. She thinks because we had so much space when we were together that it wouldn't be much different now we're together. I said I don't know... but said I might give it a try.
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I want to read into her being sad so badly. I want to wait until I'm cool and calm, and then tell her I think we should give it another try, or tell her I don't want to be just friends and that I need more, or even just ask her over to hang out. I don't know.
Go on, dash my hopes and tell me what a stupid idea this is!