Sex, love or friendship???
Hello all,
Let's see what you can tell me about this story.
I met this guy by phone 4 month ago (work reason). From that first call, without knowing each other we got on well and other then the business call, we started chatting via msn from home, nearly every night for hours and full night. We decided to meet after 2 month (we live like 400 miles from each other) and spent a great day/evening together, nothing 'intimate' but afterwards we did both admit that the idea of kissing had been there but didn't have the guts to do the first move on a first date. Back to the phone/msn for hours of chatting till a business meeting (a month ago) that we decided to transform as a date. Another great day and a great night together:D . Back to the phone/msn, once in a while was coming out 'I miss you', ' I think of you' but we never talked about real feelings or love. We decided for another date and carried on chatting as always untill a few days ago, when he came out saying that he was scared of love, that he was having 'strange thoughts', that he didn't feel ready for a serious relationship, that he wanted to carry on being friends but that we would meet again:surprised .
I am shocked as we never talked of love or of getting serious and I feel hurt that he cut me out like that as I do care for him (I wouldn't call it love at this point though).
I don't know what to do? i don't want him only as a friend and I dont want to lose him completely either.
Being friends and carry on chatting to him as always? I could do it but something unclear would always lay underneath.
Declare that I do care for him more then in a friendly way? That would be a good way to make him run.
Meeting again just for the sex? The sex was great but is it worth getting that low, then again to go back to the same mental trip of 'feeling of love' is having right now.
I don't understand as he says that it is not for 'sex' (first thing I thought) then why react like this for some words never said.:sad2: