Went out with girl at work who just got out bad relationship; then I really screwed u
So I met this girl at work and we really hit it off. A situation where we didn't see each other in passing and we clicked so much we both we left wanting more after every brief interaction.
I did learn she just got out of a 2 year long abusive relationship- in fact a week before I met her he broke her nose when she went to get some things from his place.
I liked her a lot but took it real slow. In fact she first hinted that she liked me- big hint when her male friend was picking her up and she said don't worry he's gay- I don't want you to feel theatened. The next night I have her a ride and she asked for my #.
So things escalated to where we had a date. And it was awesome. We both confided a lot and made out but also it was clear she was kind of struggling with dating so soon. She kept saying she wished she had met me 2 years earlier.
Well there's a lot more I could say but long story short after that she started to pull away. We went back and forth..let's be casual..try to be friends first..then eventually to where she stopped replying to texts and turned down a hang out. Then started avoiding me at work.
I handled it poorly. I kept texting her every few days for a week after she stopped replying. Just dumb stuff..let's hang as friends..I'm here for you..idk. Not dumb but dumb- all caring and all genuine on my part to be with her but dumb in that she clearly needed space.
Well 1 day at work we had to work together on something, a rariety. And she wouldn't look at me or speak to me but talked and laughed with everyone else and I cracked. I was trying to be cool but I slipped her a note asking her to lunch. She said no real rude lol and I slipped her another asking when I became the enemy.
She got up and moved to another part of the office and later reported to HR that I tried to force her to go to lunch.
So anyway..here we are. We don't speak and she won't look at me. Our paths rarely cross but I feel terrible. For the first time I saw real potential with someone. What a connection. So much in common. And the physical too.
I want to give her space but I'm also desperate to make things right and hopeful we can date when she's ready.
So ladies how the heck do I fix this? I know it won't be any time soon. But eventually.