How to bring up healthy lifestyle with the gf...?
My gf and I have always been slim people....like slim. When we went to college, she gained a good 30lbs in her freshman year, which I am completely fine with. She used to be 'skinny', now she's more shaped like the average gal these days. From what I can tell, her metabolism slowed down, and she "hates exercising" but still "loves food",so I'm getting a little worried. I'm almost certain she's not still gaining weight, but the way she eats (large portions) and her lack of activity is starting add up. The issue is this: she's very sensitive about the weight she's gained...i.e. she'll say she feels fat after a big meal but looks to me for some self-esteem booster. If I agree with her and tell her she can still eat what she wants, she just needs to run a little (even if that's what she may be thinking), she'll chop my head off and get super defensive. BUT If I tell her she's not, then she points out her tummy to me in protest, so it's like I can't win.
If I agree that she's gained weight, it starts a fight, and if I try to downplay it she makes an argument about it.
How can I tackle this classically sensitive issue without causing more trouble than its worth?
In a perfect world I wish I could just tell her to hit the gym, she'd eat what she wants and keep heart healthy at the same time. But something tells me it's not going to happen that easily. What makes it harder is that the more time that goes by, the more into exercise I seem to be and now it's like we're heading in completely different directions. I'd love to be that couple that goes for a run/bike ride together etc but I can't bring the topic up without hurting her feelings.