should i give him sex to keep him?
Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum and I was wondering if I can get some help with my problem.
Ok me and my boyfriend have met each other 3 years ago during my summer break here in US I was 16 and him 15 at the time. We didn't see each other after the end of summer as I got home.
When I came back here last year to study in the US he said he missed me all that time and was wishing we can get back together I was hesitant at first as I just got out of a break up but after I accept.
The truth is I liked him but I wasn't really into him like the way he was for me. I was surprised because everything went fine between us at a point that I was also in love with him.
2 months ago I've met a guy really handsome who looked like the player type and I fell for him I didn't know why since then everything is difficult with my boyfriend.
I sincerely told him I want to break up. But I didn't think about what was going to happen. So I broke up with him to be with the other guy but he wasn't really meeting my expectations. I don't really know I think my boyfriend set my expectations so high that I hoped he could act like him. Anyway, I regretted being with him so I broke up. My boyfriend was always there for me even Thought I was dating the other guy.
Even after I felt so bad because I figured out that he was the one I was in love with. So I told him I still love him and we went back together. I tried to make him forgive me and I succeded. Then the "handsome guy" came over again saying he loves me and was willing to change for me. I was confused because my boyfriend wasn't my type at first he succeded to be with me by his personality. Its like he was the only one who can understand me we were always there for each other. So I told both of them they should give me time to think amd then I will give them my answer. Me and my boyfriend were both virgin not the guy. I told my boyfriend to go to prom with another girl a friend of him and he did. I didn't wanted to have a bad effect on him.
One thing after the other his mother figured it out that her son and the 2 boys were involved in something with me and that I was making my boyfriend sad. She went to see the other guy to tell him I'm playing games with both of them and that he should help her make her son forget me. Now he came and told me what she said and my boyfriend came to see me. He was hurted by what his mom said and didn't understood why she did it. I finally told them I don't want to be with either one because I don't want trouble.
But I regretted. The next day. I went to see my boyfriend to tell him I love him. When the other guy found out he sent some of my old message saying that I was leaving my boyfriend for him to the mother. My boyfriend was so hurt that day. His parents told him to start dating other girls to get over me. Since that day I knew I've made the biggest mistake by first going out with the guy because he ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. My boyfriend went to prom with his friend I didn't knew that she was in love with him. So she made him loose his virginity and the next day he didn't call me. I was so deceived when he came to see me. He was changed. He was a different person he didn't kiss me the same way nor touched the same way. We talked about the girl and while he was talking I figured out he wasn't telling me something. I got him to tell the truth and he said he was dating her because his parents told him to and he thought he would forget about me if he had sex with her. We cried together when we was explaining everything he said he didn't like having sex with her and that he felt bad doing it to her because she loves him. We are back together now but things are so difficult now. He has to stay with her so that his parents won't figure out that we're still together. It hurts me because all this happened by my fault. I think he can't leave her because he has feelings for her and she also give him sex what I can't as I have to stay virgin until I get married(muslim religion and also my commitment).
And plus his parents and sibling don't like me anymore but his grandparents complain about the fact that his mother didn't give me a chance and that she should let him decide who he wants to be with. Its hard for me because I love him, I know. He loves me I'm scared of losing him over this girl because of what she gives him. I wish his parents can give me a chance again. He's leaving soon for university in San Diego the girl is leaving to go somewhere else too he told me if he go there he will tell her that its over it will be easy because. She won't be able to see him anymore. We want to make our life together I'm already in a university and I'm transfering this summer. Do you guys think she will forget him? What should I do? Let them be together? Or should I fight to get the parents confidence again and stay with him? I really love him but all this is happening because of me and it kills me. And do you think I should give him sex so he won't have to go see her everytime?
