Just something I've noticed recently, wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences.
To what extent do you think that who you're attracted to is influenced by what your friends, or other girls who you look up to, think of a guy?
There's this girl who I fairly recently learned has a big crush on me. She's the sort of outgoing, popular, talented, good looking rich kid you get at university-went to primary school at the International School of Brussels and then secondary school at a boarding school in Oxford, and all of her friends are from similar backgrounds, but she is sort of the queen bee, alpha female person of the group. She's incredibly naive but all the lovelier for it, I'm kinda outside her social group as I find their gregariousness a bit intimidating but we have great discussions on all sorts of interesting topics. I'm from a pretty bog standard background; went to school at my local comprehensive, speak in a thick northern accent, not all that confident or trendy, don't have a lot of money to go on exciting travels every summer, and I'm the first person in my family to go into higher education. I'm not sure why she likes me, but I think it's probably something to do with her considering herself really left wing and having a romanticised idea of people who aren't rich that I play into quite a lot.
Before I knew she liked me I was pretty confused for a while because her friends, who I barely know, have little in common with and are probably out of my league, would flirt with me a lot on the rare times when I saw them. One who I met while walking home even invited me back to hers for some drinks and we ended up having sex. And this has happened with another of her friends, who told me afterwards that the above girl really likes me.
When I discovered this it made more sense; do you think the girls friends, knowing that she liked me, subconsciously decided that since the alpha female liked me, then I must therefore be a desirable partner? Do you think you yourself do this without realising? When I think about it, most of the girls I've been with have got their impression of me mostly from female friends of mine who have a high opinion of me-sort of like a time saving device.
And also, do you think I should give it a bit of time before doing anything with this girl, seeing as I've slept with 2 of her friends already?
