Any chance of getting ex girlfriend back?
My ex girlfriend just broke up with me a few days ago before she left for college. I'm a college sophomore, she's going to be a freshman and we go to schools in different states. We had already done long distance for one year. We were both each other’s partner and had a true deep love. However, Our relationship had kind of come to a point where we were both stagnant. No real personal growth occurred and we began to resent each other for it. We became co-dependent for happiness and it became somewhat unhealthy. However when she ended it she said it was over “for now”. We had been together almost two years, but the last few months had been harder than before.
Anyways, I’ve gotten past the initial point of despair, and I’m beginning to make my peace with it. Problem is, I still really love this girl and think we should be together. We agreed to no contact, for the time being, and didn’t give and end date to it. One of our mutual friends said that she’s kind of upset, and still loves me, but thought we couldn’t do the relationship for now as things had come to a bad point. She said she hopes I can find happiness outside of her and can make peace with her decision. She’s enjoying her college life from what I’ve been told, and she already had drunk rebound sex with someone else. I am not mad about this as she’s single, but that obviously hurt a little bit. Despite this I think I still want her down the line.
As of now I’m just going to enjoy the single life and focus on myself. I have a lot of personal things I think I need to improve, want to hit the gym, meet new people and see what happens. I got to thinking though, and realized I’m probably never going to stop loving this girl. We were together almost two years and best friends almost three.
My question is, when we both come home for thanksgiving break, and I still have feelings for her, would it be a good idea to reach out and ask if she’d like to get dinner or something? My idea was that if I still feel the sparks and love for her, that I could see if she’d be interested in getting back together. I don’t really have the desire to be friends, but would respect her decision and be okay if she didn’t want to
Any thoughts on this? Obviously need to try and move on and improve myself, but do you think I could get her back?
