When a man asks "what's wrong?"
Do they really want an answer? (I realize I'm speaking in generalizations, so...in general).
My husband and I have this ridiculous pattern that I am so beyond tired of.
I get upset about something. I don't bother to tell him what it is anymore, because in the past when I tried he just went into defense mode, which then makes me more upset and never lead to resolution...just more conflict.
So... here I am, upset again, and he asked 2 nights ago, "what's wrong"? I say, "nothing", (for above reasons), which fully satisfies him. He goes about the next 2 days as if nothing is wrong, never asks again, all the while I'm seething over the original thing that pissed me off, and now about the fact that I'm pretty sure he'd be able to go the rest of his life never again asking what's bothering me, or caring that anything is. He ignores me completely, except at the end of the night when I get into bed I get this totally annoying peck on the cheek with a cheerful "goodnight sweetheart". ugh.
I guess I just don't undertstand why someone that professes to love me so much could not care less that I'm obviously upset about something, and has no desire to find out why.
When he asks, "what's wrong" is it just me, or does it sound to other men here like he's very grateful when I answer, "nothing" so he can ignore me and not have to listen to me?