Ok, dated this woman for about 2.5 months. She's cute, smart, around my age, and most importantly: going out with me.
Went on a date this weekend. A very long date. Had fun and all. But, why did I feel all of a sudden like she was "a friend?" I mean, she wasn't sending out that vibe, but I just felt that way all of a sudden.
Part of it is a mixture of things. First off, she always asks what I want which at times seems rather meaningless. I mean, I'll express preferences on the big things...the small things don't matter so much and I'll say, "Well, whatever you choose." She seems to want me to express preferences on the small things; yet those things are of no concern to me.
On the big things, she seems to be a bit pushy. I say, sure a road trip to the reservoir today and we have lunch on the shoreline, pretty much spend the whole day there, sipping wine, etc. But, then she's on to plans for the next weekend--hey, lets drive four hours to a national forest for the day and come back the same day. Uh, not so fun. I find myself saying "nada" to some of these hair-brained schemes--and she readily admits that she's "unrealistic" about many things. So, when I say "probably not" to the long trip for the next weekend, she says that she'd like to hear my plans for spending time with her in the next week, so she can figure out her schedule. If I say, "hey hot about these two events" then she'll say, "Okay, and how about adding this third event, too?"
See, it gets a bit pushy. I mean, its a compliment that she wants to spend time with me, but its only been 2.5 months...what's the rush? Maybe it contributed to my "friend" feelings?
Your thoughts?