Should you date if you don't love yourself?
I don't love myself and never have done. I just wondered if other people feel that way on here and whether they think even think about entering a relationship feeling that way about themselves?
I have mh issues and I think that has led to my self loathing, along with the daily psychological bullying I suffered at school which I've never really dealt with properly despite seeing psychologists in the past. I am trying mindfulness but I find it hard to switch off from thoughts going round in my head, mainly about a guy I have had to let go of but also of general stresses and other problems. There's no way I can recover from the mh issues now and as a fundamentally broken person who can't love themselves I don't think it's fair on others to put them through being with me in a relationship. I have sexual problems anyway so there would be no point. I can be emotionally manipulative which is what the guy I had to let go of had said of me. It just feels to me like the last thing I should do is engage in a relationship. But I still get lonely, I suppose my main issue is learning to accept that I have to stay away from men, avoid becoming attracted to them and trying to find other ways of keeping my mind busy.
Do other people feel that not loving themselves should be a good enough reason to stay single? Obviously for me there's more going on but surely you can't love someone else in a healthy way if you don't love yourself?