Really hurt and not sure what to do.....
My boyfriend of 7 weeks broke up with me yesterday. I know it was not a long term relationship and quite new but I still cared about him and liked him.
I really thought all was well between us and it come out of the blue and I dont know what to do.
He had come out of a long term relationship quite a while a go but still has finacial tyes with the ex and she is meant to be colletcing the rest of her furniture from his house this week.
He txt me on sunday and said some things and then said that he is finding it hard to feel the bond between us. I said that I can feel it, I care about him and like him a lot and asked him not to give up on us. He then said he has pretty much made up his mind.
I feel that talking by txt is imature and drove down to his and tried to talk to him. He did answer the door but he would not let me in and was in a bad mood and did not want to seem to talk. I said to him please dont give up on us, I really care about you and like you. He said that he knows that I do but he is confused and does not feel that a relationship is right for him at the moment.
I then got home to find he had removed me as his friend on facebook then ended the relationship.
When we was together he said that he would like to be friends no matter what happens. He also said several times that he does not want anything to get in the way of us working and being together for a long time. He even said several times he hopes that further down the line that I will move in with him. Told his family and friends about me who love over 100 miles away and his mum said that she has seen some good changes in him since he has been with me.
Last night I finally got a txt from him. He said that he thinks he wants to be friends and perhaps we can see if something more will happen in the future but he can not make any promises.
I did not reply, wanted to think and have space as I was so upset and hurt.
He then messaged me this morning asking if I tried to call him as he had a missed call from a withheld number and I replied saying no, hope your doing ok.
He then asked if I got his message from last night and said im doing ok. I then replied saying that I did, so do you want to be friends.
He replied saying thats what im asking you ;)
I then said yes I would like to be, I care about you,want to be here for you and im hurt a bit but will be fine in a few days and friends is better than nothing.
Then txt him friends and he said yep. Im just not ready for a relationship right now. I Can not deal with the pressure and expectations of a relationship.
I said fair enough.
I friend requested him on fbook and he accepted me. He still has the pics of us up on there and has not deleted any messages which I have sent him.
When we was together he use to update me about his work and house and things.
Then later this afternoon I got a message saying that they had sorted his pay. Why would he say this if he does not feel something towards me?
I know there is a strong bond and chemistry between us and my friends could even see it. I like him and care about him and want us to have a chance in the future. Im happy that ive not lost him and really want him to see that he does like me and wants to be with me but im confused on how I should act.
How many times can I message him? I dont want to come across as pushy but dont want to seem not interested either.
Do you think he does like me but realises that its not right to be in a relationship until you know that you are clear on how you feel and what you want? Do you think he is basically just asking for space?
I feel so alone and confused and really would appreciate your help. Thank you.
