Why are females affraid of relationships with friends ?
Here is my story:
I am in love with my best friend. I have known her for 8 years.A few months ago i fell in love with her. I tried to get close to her: i tried to make her happy, to laugh, to smile, to feel safe, to please her, to slowly show her what i feel. And i succeded, she was very happy these months. We saw each other allmost every day.She doesn't have a boyfriend. She is very delicate and you have to know her very well to make her happy.Eventually i told her what i feel for her. he said that she sees me as her best friend and nothing more.
All i wanted was a simple chance... like every other guy gets when asks her out on a date. I don't expect her to love me just after i told her i loved her. I want a chance to prove my feeings for her, to be able to really show her what i feel..I cannot do this by beeing just her friend...And after that if i deserve maybe her heart will open for me.. You see...she had all kinds of boyfrinds. All cheated on her, made her sad, left her in the middle of the night, while it was raining, alone and crying to go to her home all by herself. SHe was the one who ended up hurt. I don't want to see her like that, i want to protect her and i did, i made her feel safe, made her laugh, enjoy every moment with me... I neglected everything to be able to learn new things about her, to know how to make her happy. She had all my attetion. She ends up hurt with these guys because when she sees one that she thinks he is good looking she immediatly falls in love with them. It doesn't matter how he behaves with her, if he looks good she love him... And by the way she told me that i look good and that i have GOLD properties....but we are friends and this is impossible. The thing with friends is all that she doesn't like. She is very vulnerable and needs a lot of attention. I can give her everything she wants, but she doesn't like the fact that i am her friend SHe know that i can, she knows that i can love her very much and thats why she told me some bad things that she didn't meant. She recongnised after that. I know that if you love a person you should want her to be happy even if that means for her to be with someone else. Years ago i loved someone else but i wasn't able to "offer" her anything. I made her laugh but nothing more..I undestanded that she would be better without me... But this time i can do something for this girl... And i don't know how but always when something bad happens to her i am the one near to her and there's no one else...
Anyway i told her i would never talk to her about this thing unless she wants to and that if she ever changes her mind she knows where to find me..
But i can't stop thinking of her....
What do you think i should do ? Should i stop seeing her, force myself not no want to see her ? Should i continue to be there for her and maybe she will realise eventually that i deserve a chance ? Or maybe her heart will let me in even if she doesn't want to ?