Hello,
I just have a few questions about sex in general really. They're just questions and i'm not planning on doing it anytime soon, yes i'm a virgin and so's my gf, so please no "if you're asking this you're not ready for sex" thanks.
First off, what do people mean by being "ready" for sex?
Like i said above, people say that but what do they actually mean? emotionally ready? surely if you love the person you're with then that's sorted. Ready for the potential children? If you think about it, a mix of contraceptives are going to remove that, along with good timing of the month. And ready for any diseases, well they can be checked for and pretty much prevented can't they? What else is there? (i did have another but i've forgotten it)
Also, all those who don't want to have sex before marriage, why?
Non-religious people, what are your reasons? is it just a way to show self control. And religious people, well not all, i'm sorry but i can only refer to chrisians here, so christians, why not? the bible does not directly say it. It talks of sexual immorality, but if it's just with one person, and the one you love then surely that's not immoral? That goes for non-religious people too, what if it's with the one you love, why not?
What is the big deal about sex anyway? if you're not doing it to produce children then why is is such a big deal about doing it with anyone? Is it just the way we're brought up? if we were taught that holding hands was more intimate than sex, wouldn't we all look on that as something u did in private? And why is there such a big deal made about it? is it not just another way to express feelings for another person? or just to have fun, as it is meant to be enjoyable isn't it?
And finally, why do people see virginity as such a big deal? it's not often, i don't think, that people end up with the person who they lost their virginity to, so why make it seem so important? It's not like it's something physical that you're going to feel lost without, or become ill from.
well if you got this far thanks, answers to any of those questions would be really appreciated.