Originally Posted by easilyinspired
I recently broke up with my bf of one year. The relationship hasn't been stable for some time, and a night argument set it off. Since, we've broken up before (5-10 times during the year, but we would get back together after 2-3 days) the feeling wasn't new to me. I got upset and although I refrained from crying (i usually sob in these situations) I still felt horrible. It wasn't so much missing my ex as just being alone, for the first time since I was 11. Strange? I know, please don't lecture me. I'm 16 and I have been in 2 relationships. My first bf was with me for 4 years. We started off slowly and he lived 5 hours away so the first year didn't have much advancement. But for the last two years we were very involved and very much in love (insert adult gasp here). The reason I broke up with my first bf was because of my second one (the ex, at present). I met him, became infatution (even though he had a gf and i had a bf). We tried to avoid relations since we were both involved but it was inevitable. We couldn't really stop it. So, we both dumped our partners and began dating. Things were great, then shaky, then amazing, and then even shakier. So, I'm at this point. We broke up and have been for the past almost week. I dreaded being alone the first day. I don't usually sit home all day, which is what I ended up doing. We spent so much time together that we started neglecting some friends and depended on each other for our social lives.
The second day I got desperate for male attention and searched Myspace profiles of guys within the 20 mile radius. I didn't find anything of great interest, but then I saw a farmiliar name. Vlad. This meant the boy was either Ukrainian or Russian. I am Ukrainian and I speak both languages. So i sent him a messege simply saying "im ukrainian". That's it. I wasn't particularly interested I just wanted some common interest buddy. Then he mailed me back and said "we should hang out". Weve talked online and on the phone and I plan on meeting him this saturday. He seems like a really great guy. Hes two years older, ukrainian, and lives 30 minutes away. We have similar personalities and ever since he first talked to me, I'vve lost all feelings of the subtle pain from the break-up. I wasn't sure if I should post this in the dating or dumping section. Many forums recomment not moving on so fast, and I'm wondering if I could be making a mistake. However, I don't want to lose a great guy and I am very eager to meet him. I have been longing for a guys attention for basically most of my teenage life. I am not a "slut" however and I don't use sex to keep guys. I'm not exactly sure why they stick around. I dont consider myself a "great catch", but for a 16 year old a 4 year relationship and a 1 year relationship is pretty lenghty. Some advice on whether I might be doing something wrong, (even if it feels perfect).?