Does she want to reconcile or just be friends?
I posted this in the "broken hearts" page but to spare some of the longevity, I wanna cut to the point and see if I can get a woman's point of view.
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Me and my current ex dated a couple months, thing's we're incredible. I can't remember the last time I was as happy. But we moved very fast from the beginning, basically considered ourselves dating within a couple weeks of talking/seeing each other. Still it was perfect up until the final two weeks. I started getting a little paranoid when I shouldn't have, started asking too many questions when I know I didn't need to and she ended it because she thought I didn't trust her. Way more detail and emotional breakdowns on her end because of how I was, but I'll spare the details.
After a week or two of no contact on my end she contacted me, bringing up stuff she gave my friend to give me even though he obviously told me himself. I said I know she was looking for a reason to contact me which she didn't deny. She went into wanting to be friends before she could jump back into a relationship because she did miss me. I was spiteful and told her I don't feel comfortable being friends with exes, she accepted my decision and we went into no contact for almost 2 months. We exchanged texts once because a girl she used to be friends with (who has had a crush on me for a year now) messaged me saying my ex was dating somebody new. I asked my ex about it because I was under the impression that's why she ended it. She ignored this and told me I should just date the girl who told me that. I didn't continue the conversation.
A few weeks ago she randomly messaged me on facebook, apologizing for being rude during that conversation (it happened 3+ weeks prior) and assured me she wasn't dating anybody and that she hopes all is well. Two weeks later I wished her a happy b-day, she thanked me and that was it.
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A week ago today is where I need the most advice/opinion. I had bought tickets for a band I've wanted to see since I was a teenager, she didn't hear of them until I brought up I got tickets, for us. She said they were good but wasn't crazy about them. Regardless we broke up before the show so I gave a friend her ticket. Last Friday was the show and I saw her walk in, she didn't notice me because the place was huge but I saw her. She texted me a little later asking if I was there, I said yes and kept it short. After I wouldn't respond to texts, she would text me something else, and I'd answer or stop talking...after all, she's my ex and I was trying to move on. When the band started I made my way to the left side of the stage, my ex texted me asking if I were on the floor, I said I was at the stage and 5 minutes later she taps me on the shoulder all smiles and says hello. She remained behind me, eyes locked on me it seemed, the rest of the show.
The next day I felt the urge to jokingly text her saying it was nice seeing her, despite not being friendly. She pointed out I didn't seem so thrilled and ending up behind me was "an accident," even though she really had to push through people to end up directly behind me, randomly towards the left side of the stage. I asked how she was but all she had to say was she's ok and lost her old job but working with her mom now. I told her I'm great, about to get a new higher paying job, etc. She started asking things I wouldn't think she remembered, like if I finished the "Fender Jazzmaster/Jaguar" guitar project I was working on and if I sold my VW Jetta project. Something not even my friends remembered. I was very nice back but kept the conversation short.
Two days later she sends me a friend request on Facebook, liked two things I posted that day and has been all week..stuff I know she isn't familiar with (song lyrics to unpopular songs, etc). I only texted her the one time which was last saturday, but she texted me yesterday and today after I posted that I got the new job, congratulating me. The two text conversations she initiated were very brief, but mostly her asking about me and my family.
The Facebook stuff seems important because I did some lurking of mutual friends, she barely likes anything anybody posts but has been into my posts all week...significant? Who knows but I can't help but notice. As I mentioned earlier, I was very happy with her I just let some things get the best of me. I would love nothing more than to call her mine again and as of now I'm taking this is as slow as possible but I'm not sure on what SHE wants. Based on what I gathered and her facebook, she's still single. I just worry she misses having me being part of her life, but not enough to try a relationship again..but why make her presence known to this extent to just be friends?
Sorry for how incredibly long this was, but what are some female opinion's on her behavior if you've seen or did it yourself? Should I keep letting her contact me but be polite when she does so I'm not rushing? Thanks a ton.
