Hello All,
First off, let me start by saying, I am NOT one of those girls who harrasses her boyfriend to get married at the first utter of "I love you", but I am starting to get a bit impatient.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years, living with him for 4 years. We have one bank account, a dog and are actively looking to purchase a house. So one would say, we are pretty much married as it is. We are 29 and 28 years old, not getting any younger, but not old by any stretch. We have both said how we do not want to be with anyone else. Over the past year and a half, pretty much all of our friends have gotten married (and have been together less time than us). This has really started to take its toll on me. I don't see any reason why we shouldn't get married but anytime I bring up ring shopping, or potential wedding stuff, he says to me "any time you bring it up, I am just going to push it further out". That seems a little ridiculous to me, any one else??
To boot, my father (whom I am very close with), got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer two years ago. At that time, I asked my boyfriend, if we should get married as my dad REALLY wants to be there. He didn't want to do it just because of my dad. So I let it go. Now, my dad is doing very poorly and probably only has a few more months left in him. He would love to know that his daughter is at least engaged to the guy that he loves as his own son. It means a lot to me and my family if I can at least give my dad that before his time. My boyfriend doesn't see it that way and still says "mentioning it just pushes back when I will do it, I don't want people to think you forced me". I think this is garbage but am eager to see what other people say. I have a very bad feeling that if my Dad dies and he asks me to marry him after the fact, I will be resentful for life.
Just trying to get some perspective.. I don't want to force him by any means but we have already said that we want to be together forever, I don't see what the issue is.
Thanks all!!!
